Be the Change!

Child sex predators are clever manipulators of trust and skilled at manipulating situations and emotions to get to a child.

Children need to be taught how easily their trust can be manipulated and, how easily they can be coerced into doing something they can't make sense of (sexual abuse).  They also, need to know they can always tell you and they will be believed. It's really simple to teach them how to recognise "grooming," whether in the home, community or online.

It's easy for a sex predator to acess a child, it's just as easy for them to manipulate an adult's trust; however, with little effort you can become aware of their "Modus Operandi" (method of operation) that will back up any "gut feelings" you have about them.

The key is to stop them at the beginning stages of their "grooming" process and you do that by teaching your child how to tell the difference between good/bad touch, gifts, secrets and games. I have created "Bert the Butterfly" colouring pages to be used, in a non-confronting way, as a tool to help engrain these skills to protect them when you are not around.

"Bert the Butterfly" colouring pages are designed to give children tools, and a language, to tell you should they feel unsafe, or unsure, around another person. It gives you connection to their story should they find themselves in the web of deception, of a sexual predator.

Awareness without tools to break free, leaves a child powerless against the skilled manipulation of a clever predator.

"Will you walk into my parlour?" said the Spider to the Fly, 
"Tis the prettiest little parlour that ever you did spy;
 The way into my parlour is up a winding stair, 
 And I have many curious things to show you when you are there."

"Oh no, no," said the Fly, "to ask me is in vain;
 For who goes up your winding stair can ne'er come down again." 
 
"The Spider and the Fly"  (1829) Mary Howit
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Sexual predators live in our communities and homes (mostly undetected), as they hover around young families. They hide in the shadows, watching and waiting for opportunity; that is, they are on the constant lookout for a vulnerable child they can trick into a hidden, sexual relationship and the child can never return to the innocence of childhood again, "For those who goes up your winding stair can ne'er come down again." (Howitt.M).

Breakthrough Options addresses the "Modus Operandi" of sexual predators and gives insight and skills to those who have the responsibility of protecting children and for those caring for vulnerable children; in particular, we address how to recognise and deal with any 'grooming' (tricks) behaviours of those in positions of trust. 

Breakthrough Options  informs and gives free tools to offer a child skills to recognise when they are being tricked, coerced or manipulated into doing things that are beyond their frame of reference, or their ability to understand.

 

Full Poem Spider and The Fly