Protecting children takes community awareness.

Saving One Child at a Time - The Power of Coercion

"Will you walk into my parlour?" said the Spider to the Fly, 
"Tis the prettiest little parlour that ever you did spy;
 The way into my parlour is up a winding stair, 
 And I have many curious things to show you when you are there."

"Oh no, no," said the Fly, "to ask me is in vain;
 For who goes up your winding stair can ne'er come down again." 
"The Spider and the Fly"  (1829) Mary Howit

Sexual predators live in our communities and homes (mostly undetected), as they hover around young families. They hide in the shadows, watching and waiting for opportunity; that is, they are on the constant lookout for a vulnerable child they can trick into a hidden, sexual relationship and the child can never return to the innocence of childhood again, "For those who goes up your winding stair can ne'er come down again." Mary Howitt

Breakthrough Options addresses the Modus Operandi of sexual predators and gives insight and skills to those who have the responsibility of protecting children and for those caring for vulnerable children; in particular, we address how to recognise and deal with any 'grooming' (tricks) behaviours of those in positions of trust. 

Breakthrough Options  informs and gives tools to offer a child skills to recognise when they are being tricked, coerced or manipulated into doing things that are beyond their frame of reference, or their ability to understand.


The Spider and the Fly

The skillful art of Coercion


"Will you walk into my parlor?" said the spider to the fly;
"'Tis the prettiest little parlor that ever you did spy.
The way into my parlor is up a winding stair,
And I have many pretty things to show when you are there."
"O no, no," said the little fly, "To ask me is in vain,
For who goes up your winding stair can ne'er come down again."

"I'm sure you must be weary, dear, with soaring up so high;
Will you rest upon my little bed?" said the spider to the fly.
"There are pretty curtains drawn around, the sheets are fine and thin,
And if you like to rest awhile, I'll snugly tuck you in."
"O no, no," said the little fly, "for I've often heard it said,
They NEVER, NEVER WAKE again, who sleep upon YOUR bed."

Said the cunning spider to the fly, "Dear friend, what shall I do,
To prove the warm affection I've always felt for you?
I have within my pantry good store of all that's nice;
I'm sure you're very welcome; will you please to take a slice?
"O no, no," said the little fly, "kind sir, that cannot be;
I've heard what's in your pantry, and I do not wish to see."

"Sweet creature!" said the spider, "you're witty and you're wise,
How handsome are your gauzy wings, how brilliant are your eyes!
I have a little looking-glass upon my parlor shelf,
If you'll step in one moment dear, you shall behold yourself."
I thank you, gentle sir," she said, "for what you're pleased to say,
And bidding you good-morning NOW, I'll call ANOTHER day."

The spider turned him round about, and went into his den,
For well he knew the silly fly would soon be back again:
So he wove a subtle web, in a little corner sly,
And set his table ready to dine upon the fly.
Then he came out to his door again, and merrily did sing,
"Come hither, hither, pretty fly, with the pearl and silver wing:
Your robes are green and purple; there's a crest upon your head;
Your eyes are like the diamond bright, but mine are dull as lead."

Alas, alas! how very soon this silly little fly,
Hearing his wily flattering words, came slowly flitting by.
With buzzing wings she hung aloft, then near and nearer drew,
Thinking only of her crested head - POOR FOOLISH THING! At last,
Up jumped the cunning spider, and fiercely held her fast.
He dragged her up his winding stair, into his dismal den,
Within his little parlor; but she ne'er came out again!

And now, dear little children, who may this story read,
To idle, silly, flattering words, I pray you ne'er give heed;
Unto an evil counselor close heart, and ear, and eye,
And take a lesson from this tale of the Spider and the Fly.


"The Spider and the Fly"  (1829) Mary Howitt




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