Child Sex Predator's Modus Operandi (method)

Step One "kiting thread"
 To “groom” a child refers to actions deliberately undertaken with the aim of befriending and establishing an emotional connection with a child, in order to lower the child's inhibitions in preparation for child sexual abuse. The “grooming” process and behaviours of a predator will become clear as you learn about it through nature's master of deception; the spider.

The Spider's "grooming" 

The first and most important thread a spider throws out is called “kiting” and its crucial to the building of his web. 
He secures his thread to a solid starting point, then releases it and waits for the wind to carry it. There is no planning involved, luck has everything to do with where the thread lands.

The Predator's "grooming" 
  • He needs to find a place where he can attach his first thread without being noticed.
  • He looks for vulnerable families and children who are struggling .
  • He finds a position of authority and power with access to children.

Step Two "Reinforcing Thread"
The Spider's "grooming"
The spider races backwards and forwards across the original thread, securely attached to something. 
He lays more strands to make it stronger, its crucial he gets this right or the whole web will collapse.

The Predator's "grooming"
  • builds trust 
  • tests boundaries
  • meet needs 
  • buy gifts 
  • control situations
  • withdraws emotionally to test the strength of the attachment. 
  • withdraws financial, relational, spiritual and social support. 
  • the strength of how much you need him determines the next step for him.

Step Three  "Anchor Thread"

 The Spider's "grooming" 

The Spider needs to anchor his web to secure the framework for his building process. Usually this is on the ground or on a horizontal branch. This single thread is very strong and is the core support structure of the web.

The Predator's "grooming"

The Perpetrator will use his position of trust, charm or ability to meet needs, to attach himself to the parent. His next step is to secure his position within the family, as trust is established, and needs are being met. He is securing his position within the family unit whilst spinning his web deeper and stronger. No one notices because he "looks good."

Step Four "Frame Thread"

The Spider's "grooming" 

The Spider attaches the frame thread on both sides of the anchor thread which now forms the outside frame of the spider web. His position is now solid and the framework completed to create the more sinister threads. 
The Predator's "grooming"

The Predator’s framework is extremely important and needs to show friends, family and members of the community just how wonderful he is for taking on the lead role within the family by his support and interest. 
The family is usually better off because of the perpetrator being in their lives, financially, emotionally, publicly and in the church community.
Outwardly, people seem genuinely pleased that the family is not struggling anymore. However, it is a temporary relief from the struggle, because the cost in terms of human lives is too high a price to pay.

Step Five "Radius Thread"

The Spider's "grooming"

The spider now creates the radius thread, which is the silk that connects from web’s central point, to the outside frame. This is designed to support the web and the weight of the spider, while he spins the auxiliary and capture spirals. The spider, uses this thread to go back and forth so that he doesn’t get entrapped by his own web.

The Predator's "grooming" 

The Predator’s focus now has shifted from the family unit as a whole, to the child, (prey) and is now focused on getting his needs met; his focal point becomes the child, as he begins to see his “reward” is now in sight. He knew that when he threw out the first line that this child was his, and he was the one with the power and the control to make it happen, and now it is within his reach. He works from inside the family unit now.

Step Six  "Auxillary thread"
The Spider's "grooming"
The Spider builds the auxiliary spiral to support his own weight and to be used as a guide for laying the capture spiral, (the sticky thread). From the central point of the web, he starts to spin the secondary thread that he uses as his guideline, or blueprint, for the capture spiral. The spider usually destroys it, once he has finished building the capture spiral. He spins his auxiliary spiral from the inside (centre of the web) to the outside of the web.

The Predator's "grooming"

The Predator has been observing behaviours and habits of the family from the moment he chose them. It’s all deliberate and instinctual, and he needs to strengthen his plan by building trust and strong connections within the family and community, just in case the victim tries to struggle free or tries to tell someone, so they will not be believed. He’s in the planning stage, making sure all his bases are covered and ensuring his own safety, while going after his “prey.” It is only a matter of time, before he gets to where he planned to go, from the moment he set eyes on the child.

Step Seven "Capture Spiral"

The Spider's "grooming"

The spider returns, and follows the auxiliary spiral from the outside in, back up towards the centre of the web, destroying the auxiliary thread as he replaces it with the deadly capture thread. This leaves the radius threads only as a route for the spider to walk on, otherwise he would end up being caught in his own web. This is the deadliest part of the web and is disguised with the sweetest nectar, in the insect world. As the light rays of the sun hit it first thing in the morning, it looks like sweet dew and prey are attracted to its colour thinking it is going to fulfil a need; instead they are trapped, and once entrapped they can do absolutely nothing about it, other than fight desperately for their survival.

The Predator's "grooming"

The Predator is fully focused on the child and offers “nectar” to get them locked into being touched the wrong way, coerced into doing things that they do not want to do. The “nectar” may represent touch, goods, love, money, relationship or threats; whatever it takes for the predator to gain full control over the child, while breaking down their resistance and ensuring their silence and loyalty. The ‘nectar” is the strength of his deadly web that entraps the child. Once a child is trapped they can do nothing about it other than to fight for their survival or surrender to the entrapment. Now the child is at the mercy of the predator, with no way of escape.

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